You don't have to work things out alone,
whatever you bring, everything is welcome.
You are welcome.
Do you feel empty, or that your emotions are overwhelming you?
Have you lost the feeling that you know who you really are?
Do you feel properly loved? Is it difficult to be kind to yourself?
Perhaps you have the feeling of not being 'enough' or are you struggling to find enjoyment in life?
Do you hate to let anyone down or say 'yes' even when you are already completely overwhelmed?
Can you say how you really feel in your relationships or do you go along with what others want and then feel resentful?
Have you ever wondered why you feel this way and wish it was different?
If you are thinking "that's just like me" then I can help you.
If you are feeling anxious, emotionally empty or if you have relationship issues with parents or partners and you want to feel supported and properly heard; I can help.
When life feels a bit more difficult than usual and it's hard to find anyone to talk to who will listen without giving you unwanted advice or judgement, I am here for you.
Emotional difficulties can be caused by situations or changes in our life. We can lose sight of ourselves and life can feel more difficult than usual, we can feel low or agitated and unable to feel settled.
Often these feelings are related to relationship problems, or work stress, job loss or bereavement. All of these things take their toll on how we feel and cope with our lives, yet how we deal with challenges in life can also be related to our childhood experiences.
We can get stuck in emotional patterns of behaviour without realising it. Looking back at significant relationships in our lives can often illuminate why we feel or behave as we do in the here and now. However it can be difficult to unravel it all without any help. It may have taken a long journey to get to where you are now in life, it is necessary to unravel it all slowly, with someone you think you can build a trusting relationship with.
Counselling with me takes place in a private, confidential and safe space where we can explore your feelings, your thoughts and your experiences together. I will encourage you to take time to be patient and compassionate with yourself. As we work together, you will begin to feel more able to cope and, with counselling support, you will find the strength and courage to move forward to a better place. We can consider and deal with any dilemmas and decisions you face as well as help you to notice and understand any patterns that keep occuring in your life, this can lead to you being able to decide if you'd like to change things for the better and how to go about it.
With counselling to support you through difficult times, you can regain your confidence, you can make any changes or progress that you want to and you will begin to see new perspectives for your future.
You can find out more about my approach here.
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As your counsellor I will
Support you in working things out that you want to bring
Recognise you are the expert on your own life
Remember that only you know what is best for you
Work with you to work out how to make the difficult stuff easier to live with
Give you room to access your own wisdom
As your counsellor I won't
Give you advice
Try to tell what to do or 'fix' you
Pretend I know more about you than you do
Make all the difficult stuff go away
The only constant in life is change
What clients have said...
"Thank you for your support and helping me become cognisant of childhood trauma and the effect this has on myself in the present day."
"Thank you for listening and validating my feelings, and for providing such a safe and supportive environment for me."
"You were there to talk through some very tough episodes and felt like the rock I needed and the calm in the storm. I cannot believe what progress we made over a few months and how much better I felt about myself at the end of our sessions."
"I am a person who has never been able to speak easily about my feelings. Hilary changed this and made it instantly a safe place to talk. Hilary is a kind hearted listener that makes you feel comfortable with expressing whatever you’re feeling. Her ability to understand and ask the right questions is incredible."
"Thank you so much for all your help this past couple of months - I have found it invaluable as part of my healing process from the trauma I experienced post-birth."
"Thank you so much, you've really helped me feel better and helped me make some difficult decisions."
"Hilary is absolutely amazing!! Anyone that needs counselling I would recommend her. She has helped me tremendously. She made me feel so at ease straight away and such a lovely person as well so easy to talk to."
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